When working on achieving your goals, many of us get discouraged when we experience failure in one area or another. I wish I could say I am one who can just rise up from failure and quickly review where I had gone wrong and begin again, or start working on another goal with the same zeal. I have to remind myself over and over again that failure is not final, before getting my act together and taking those steps to escape the pit of discouragement. Now that’s our little secret, because some who know me personally, think I have a positive, never give up attitude…not. God just won’t let me wallow in my pit for too long. He always sends some word, or verse, or memory, that along with my mental post-it notes to self, slowly stirs me back to action again. Oh but how sweet it is to finally accomplish something that you gave up on before.
Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12
The desire accomplished is sweet to the soul: but it is abomination to fools to depart from evil. Proverbs 13:19
Sometime ago I wrote a post about Dormant Gifts and I hinted that I wanted to write books for children. I had material sitting down for years but it just seem like I was never going to use it. I had tried to get a manuscript to a publisher, but now looking back I understand why it couldn’t have been accepted the way it was sent. Well, late last year one thing led to another and my dream of publishing 5 children’s picture books in five years, was resurrected. I pushed through the strange fear I had when I started drawing the illustrations for one of those books and was determined to self publish on Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing. Now I can sing, I did it, I did it, yes I did, I did it. Yes finally I got my first children’s picture book done, My Caribbean Day
So now you who have shelved your dreams for whatever reason, if you still have that desire in your heart to achieve, I believe you can. I can’t throw at you the ‘just do it’ slogan, I don’t have that type of personality naturally myself. What I can say is that you can do it and if you can remind yourself of that fact every time you remember your shelved dream, you slowly will start putting things in place to get it done. That’s what worked for me, even if I had to pull myself out of a temporary fit of discouragement. I started telling myself, I can do this, I believe I can. In time my I can do this, turned to I will do it. After that got settled in me it was time to put things in place. So here are the steps that I used and believe anyone can use to achieve their dreams.
- Dream. Seems obvious but sometimes we can get so caught up in life that we no longer simply take the time out to dream about stuff we would like to accomplish. Let your imagination inspire you. It’s amazing the creativity that lies within us if we take the time to look for it.
- Write it down and review them. There are so many benefits in doing this. It begins by putting you in the right mindset for achieving them. Even if you don’t review them regularly, chances are one day you’ll find them when searching for something else (like in my case) and be inspired. It also helps to bring clarity to what you want to see achieved.
- Remind yourself often that you can and you will.Think realistically about what it would take to accomplish your goal. If you are not sure, make the effort to find out. You don’t have to know everything all at once, but at least get an idea of what it would take to get from point A to point B. Again list them out. I must admit, I kept my list in my head, but as my husband likes to remind me, ‘the weakest ink is stronger than the strongest memory,’ so it’s best to write it down. Keep collecting information or material you may need, but don’t stress if you can’t get everything all at once. Also make sure you get help when you need it.
- Decide when you are going to begin and as far as possible stick to your decision. However, if you can’t, set another time. I can’t tell you how many times I missed the deadline for some of the tasks I set, even after using the accountability strategy. Which is the reason for the next point.
- Remain flexible or you may discourage yourself. Life happens and it can delay you. Avoid getting stuck in perfectionism, but don’t settle for mediocrity. Do your best.
- Celebrate small accomplishments along the way. Finishing my first picture was an inspiration.
- Live your life. Don’t get so consumed with accomplishing your goal that you ignore other important people and things of life.
So there you have it. Some of them I had to learn along the way, while dealing with frustration. Now may I introduce to you My Caribbean Day
Heavenly Father, thank you that no matter what good thing we set out to achieve in life, we have the confidence in knowing that you are with us and we can call on you for help at anytime. Thank you for helping me accomplish one part of my goal, I trust you to help me with the rest. I pray for those who have shelved dreams that would be good to pursue. Lord re-awaken the desire in them to accomplish these dreams and show them the way to go. Grant them good success, in Jesus name. Amen